What Happens in The DRK stays in The DRK
You have a kick ass scene in mind. You know who you want to play with. You and them discuss the idea, negotiate terms, and plan it out. You both know, more or less, what to expect, and you’re excited to get it started. But did you cover all of the bases? We know about…
Dominants and Self-Doubt—Impostor Syndrome is a Little Bitch Sometimes… When I go out to play parties or socials, those who know me see that I have a certain “look” to how I present myself. I like to dress in a tie and vest. To me, there is something about that look that just shows ‘class’…
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In my last post, I shared how not understanding my own power led me to submit to someone who didn’t deserve it. I wanted to submit to someone so badly, I didn’t take into account what I was giving away. He took advantage of my kindness, my empathy, and my willingness to serve—because I didn’t…
“Confidence is sexy. Humility with confidence is downright panty dropping (or so I have been told)” ~ Carmina_Burana Hello there. My style of writing may not be everyone’s cup of tea, nor the ‘ideal’ blog post set up. I am simply a person who has had some experiences within the community that have allowed me…
Stay in any one place long enough, with enough people, and eventually there will be a conflict. The kink community is no exception to this rule. In fact, I would venture to say that the kink community gives rise to conflict more often than most other communities simply due to the nature of our existence….
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Clichés in Kink vs. Reality Mainstream media loves a good kink fantasy. You’ve seen it—the domineering, mysterious billionaire and the wide-eyed, naive young woman who’s “never done anything like this before.” He gives her a list of rules, buys her a mansion, and proceeds to spank her into enlightenment. Cue the dramatic music and designer…